Suicide: There is Always Another Way
First and foremost, and with all due respect to those who have thought about or attempted it, I wish to remove all the charge and stigma around this delicate and emotional subject by stating, unequivocally, that God views suicide the same way God views every other initiation and choice that we make in our lives.
Everything that happens to us, and everything we do, occurs solely for the purpose of our God-realization. Thus, suicide is yet another life lesson, a life experience from which we learn and grow and expand into higher and more loving consciousness. Furthermore, all choices we make come with consequences and create karma, either positive or negative. The same is true with suicide. It is a form of murder, the murder of one’s own holy body; thus, a tremendous karma is incurred. It is a rather moot point to even mention that because anyone who has become so forlorn, depressed, and in despair, as to no longer place any intrinsic value upon the greatest gift ever given to a soul by the Creator, is not even thinking about karma, much less concerned about it. Therefore, I will not spend any more time addressing the karmic aspect. Suffice to say that all our choices bear consequences in the great cycle of life.
Does that mean suicide is a “right” course of action to resolve a hopeless situation, because it is “just” another life lesson? First of all, it is important not to speak in terms of right and wrong, good and bad. From most perspectives, it is a very sad and tragic “loss,” regardless of the perfection in all things. Just to put minds at ease, God does not view suicide as bad or wrong or ugly. God is the constant emanation of unconditional love and acceptance and adoration. At the same time, if you want to personify God and see Him/Her as the Divine and loving parent, there would of course be a sadness in the way any truly loving parent would view the loss of its child... though God looks at a lot of things that way (i.e. with sadness), in the personified understanding of God as parent: when people turn their backs on God; when people constantly choose to act non-lovingly when they could so easily be loving; when people choose to betray themselves by making very unwise or foolish choices, when they know better. God views all those things as very sad and tragic. But, again, that’s looking at God in a personified sense.
God, as seen and understood in terms of the Creator, as the constant and consummate emanation of unconditional love, sees and accepts suicide as one more life lesson that people have chosen to undergo. This is completely independent of consequences that the individual (who has taken his/her life) would incur. Now, does that mean I am advocating it as an option, a solution to one’s problems? Absolutely not! And I will now elaborate as to why.
One of the very hallmarks of my teachings is the universal principle that everything is forgivable, and everything is redeemable. By definition, then, suicide is no exception... and this is true. It is also true that some people reach a point in life, whereby they believe—to the very core of their being—that they do not have any other choice, any other way out. They believe they have lost all hope. Here is where the crux of this discourse comes into play.
Before I continue, and to circumvent any judgments readers may have of my writing these words from a didactic perspective only, I would like to make some important clarifications. For decades I have been communing with and assisting many souls having just left their embodiments—as well as those contemplating this tragic crime against Love, against oneself—helping them to understand, and helping them find their way again. And from the human perspective, I have had much experience with this subject. In my teens, I went through a period during which I contemplated taking my own life. I also had the huge undertaking of having to save the life of a dear friend in college, whom I found lying in the grass one night after having just overdosed. Keeping her awake and having to watch her go through that ordeal was extremely painful. Almost ten years later, this scenario played out again while I was living in Hollywood; this time, however, the victim was my very dearest and closest friend and soul mate in the world... and he called me well into his overdose. I barely got him to the hospital in time to save him—he was already unconscious, and then I had to watch the hideous stomach pumping, and all the other graphic and horrific aspects (which I will omit here) that accompany this ordeal—the worst of which is what it did to his body (and to his mind). Finally, I lost my only son to suicide in 2007, at the tender age of 15. Words fall infinitely short of describing the toll that event took on my life and on the lives of all our family.
What I want to say to all those who are now considering, or have contemplated, suicide is this: The very first thing that every single victim of suicide discovers and cries out to the heavens, moments after leaving his/her embodiment is, “Oh, my God! I did not have to do that.” Other immediate realizations they all have are: a) a wish to not have done it and a huge feeling of frustration over not being able to cross back over the threshold and back into their embodiments; b) never having conceived of the ramifications of it upon their lives and soul journeys (obviously); c) not having had any idea of the impact their suicides were going to have on their friends, relatives, and loved ones (which they can now clearly see from the other side); and d) a willingness to give anything to have the chance to make that choice over again, this time choosing to live. I have never once encountered a single exception to this chain of reactions to one’s suicide. Why I’m telling you that is so that you don’t have to go through that same trauma, after the fact.
The second most important thing I want to say to anyone who may be reading these words, or hearing them in whatever form they have reached you, and who may be considering the taking of your precious life, is this: There is always another way. There is always a way to find your way out of the maze and out of your predicament—without having to take your own life... always. So, please, never give up hope. If you are not finding the help you need where you are, go somewhere else, find it somewhere else, in someone else—whatever it takes: by phone, by foot, by bus, by plane.... Please, you must know that there is always help available... always. And if you feel you have tried everything to get help, please call even louder to God and He will send help. All prayers are heard; all prayers are answered... when the call is sincere and persevering. God will show up, will answer the soul’s cry for help. It is a parent’s instinct. But it is only through faith that we gain intimacy with God. You must have faith. Believe.
When Moses stood at the foot of Mount Sinai, he said to the woman (who would later become his wife) that he was very angry about the plight of his people, dissatisfied with what was being done (by God) about it, and that he was going to walk up that holy mountain and talk to God. He was going to get some answers. Bewildered, she said to him, “You can’t do that. You can pray to God, but God’s not going to show up for you, and God is certainly not going to talk to you.” With that, Moses said to her, “Oh, God will talk to me. I am going to demand—and command— His presence... and I am not coming off that mountain until He does.”
The whole world knows the rest of the story. He did speak to, and hear directly from, God. And Moses went on to have many personal encounters with God. Why? What commanded God’s presence was the purity of his motive and the power of his faith, as well as his courage, conviction, and perseverance. We all have those qualities. We all have those abilities.
We all need to know this, to believe it, command it, and demand it... hopefully, in a loving and reverent way, but if you have to do it in an angry and nasty way, so be it. God is not so much concerned how we come to the altar, only that we come. Human anger and feistiness shows passion and aliveness. The most difficult ones for God to reach are the lethargic, the indifferent, the apathetic. But the people who are lovingly passionate and the people who are rip-roaring mad—they are alive. So get all fired up, if you must. Simply know, have faith, believe... and persevere. Never give up. Ask and you shall receive.
- Louix Dor Dempriey